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Q&A With Heather Trilling

A Woman Redefining Leadership in Landscape Design & Construction

As the founder and owner of Trilling Landscape Design & Build, Heather Trilling has earned a reputation for creating thoughtful, sophisticated outdoor environments across Los Angeles and the Valley. But her journey is especially compelling because she has done it in an industry overwhelmingly dominated by men. In this candid conversation, Heather shares what it’s really like to own and operate a landscape design and contracting company as a woman, the challenges she’s faced, and the message she hopes to send to the next generation of women in the trades.

  • Heather: I was drawn to landscape design because of my love for outdoor spaces—how they make people feel, how they transform a home, how they create connection. What started as curiosity quickly became passion, and then a calling. As I learned more about construction—the grading, the materials, the engineering behind beautiful spaces—I realized I wanted to know the entire process start to finish. I didn’t want to design something and hand it off; I wanted to see it built exactly as it was imagined. That desire to understand and lead both sides of the work is what put me on this path.

  • Heather: Eye-opening and motivating. In the beginning, there was definitely an element of surprise when I walked onto a job site or into a meeting. People often assumed I was “just” the designer or that someone else must be in charge. But I learned early on that you earn your place by being prepared, by knowing your craft, and by showing up consistently. I never tried to match anyone’s energy or prove myself loudly. I let the work speak. And eventually, respect became the starting point instead of the hurdle.

  • Heather: There were subtle things, like vendors asking to confirm decisions with someone else, or subcontractors directing technical questions to male team members. Nothing dramatic—just patterns that reflected old assumptions. But those assumptions pushed me to learn more, prepare more, and lead with calm confidence. Over time, the team, the clients, and the industry began to see me not as a woman contractor but as their contractor—someone dependable, knowledgeable, and deeply committed to the work.

  • Heather: A combination of collaboration and technical depth. I lead through respect, not ego. I build relationships. I listen. Those things matter more on a construction site than people realize. And I’ve made it a priority to understand every phase of a build—from the drainage plan to the concrete mix to the irrigation layout. When you speak the language of the field, you gain trust. When you add empathy and organization, you keep it.

  • Heather: Collaborative, thoughtful, and steady. I believe great outdoor spaces come from teamwork. I’m not interested in running a top-down operation. I want everyone involved—contractors, designers, artisans, clients—to feel valued and heard. We solve problems together. We celebrate wins together. And we hold each other to a very high standard. I think that’s one reason clients trust us: our projects feel beautiful because the process feels respectful.

  • Heather: That women can design but can’t build. It’s an outdated belief. Design and construction are inseparable. Every beautiful idea must be backed by technical understanding or it doesn’t last. Women bring incredible strengths to this field: communication, foresight, attention to detail, long-term thinking, and a natural ability to consider how spaces are actually lived in. These aren’t “soft skills.” They are core construction skills.

  • Heather: Seeing a family walk into their new outdoor space and knowing it will change how they experience their home. That moment never gets old. I also love mentoring young women who are exploring this industry. Watching them step onto a job site with confidence is deeply rewarding. And honestly, I’m grateful for every challenge I’ve faced, because each one made me stronger, more resilient, and more committed to paving a smoother path for the women coming next.

  • Heather: Learn the technical side—it will empower you. Ask questions boldly. Show up prepared. Lead with integrity, not bravado. You don’t need to mimic anyone else to succeed. And don’t let outdated assumptions define your path. This industry needs your ideas, your perspective, and your leadership more than you know.

  • Heather: I hope to continue building outdoor spaces that bring beauty, connection, and joy to people’s homes. But beyond that, I hope my journey helps normalize female leadership in construction. I want young women to see that they belong here, that they can own companies, lead teams, run job sites, and set standards. If sharing my story helps even one woman step confidently into this field, then the impact is already meaningful.